Let’s face it. Most people have been apprehensive at one time or another about taking a step or making a decision based on fear; fear of the failure; fear of success; fear of the unknown. People become complacent and comfortable in their current positions despite how dysfunctional they may be because they know what to expect and there are few surprises. However, this can lead one to feel unfulfilled and possibly to feelings of depression and/or anxiety. Additionally, staying in hazardous situations has little potential for fulfillment and will more than likely will lead to even more hazardous conditions.

How many times have you heard someone say, “You have to face your fears to move ahead”? Countless, I’m sure. While there is truth to that statement, it is generally easier said than done. Facing fear can be extremely challenging. There is general fear, paralyzing fear, and phobias (debilitating fears). Paralyzing fear and phobias generally require professional help. However, for general fear there are steps that can be taken to face and actually move through it.

First, a person must be willing to acknowledge that they are fearful and determine what they are actually fearful of. People are often stagnant but haven’t taken the time to explore what is standing in the way of their forward movement.

Second, a person must determine how realistic their fear is. Some fears are very realistic and quite probable. No one will be great at all things and everything that a person tries is not going to work. People have to ask themselves if the possibility of greatness is worth the possibility of failure. However, there is something to gain from all experiences including those that are negative. We learn from our mistakes, which gives us information for how to succeed the next time around. So in that sense failure isn’t really failure at all.

Third, a person must think through and develop a plan to handle possible challenges on their journey. Planning ahead can be very empowering. If one has already looked at the possible stumbling blocks they may encounter and has developed a plan of action they will be less likely to panic, will experience less stress, and are more likely to succeed.

Fear has the potential to paralyze but it can also be a motivator. What are you fearful of? Are you ready to move past it?

If you or your loved one is paralyzed by fear and you feel that it cannot be resolved without professional help, seek consultation with a mental health provider as soon as possible.

Dr. Gandy-Walker provides cognitive behavioral treatment for paralyzing fear and phobias.